Each day is a struggle to throw off the “easy” of the world — the sins and the shortcuts of life. We wake up and as we gather our mental balance before the thoughts of the world come rushing in.

Maybe you’re behind on the bills and have another day of stressing to make a tiny foothold in the problem. Your marriage could be more work than blessings, and you’re struggling to keep your head above water and not keep score. It could be that you have a child failing at school and it’s dragging you down.

Misery loves company. And misery can be so many things: heartbreak, foggy sadness, sorrow, anguish, inadequacies, angst and many, many more. One of the hardest thing about being miserable is knowing that you are, and that people around you aren’t.

You will find that those who are the most and constantly miserable are the ones that misstep off the path of the righteous. People who know in their heart that God loves them and that his grace is ever ending yet they choose to flirt with the darkness.

And these people are the hardest to love the ones as you watch them step sidewise to avoid a blessing but run headlong into drama and grief. Then they whine and moan the loudest about their problems.

Why would you chose a life of victimhood and misery?

There is much happiness to come from a situation where the chaos is centrally controlled by you. Those who embrace misery are simply reveling in their control of any situation. Good or bad, they are the ones setting the plays into motion.

Surely no one would trade a life blessed by God for one where they are miserable? One where they are grasping onto every little happy crumb like a huge victory? But people are. They are running from God and his grace.

God will love you wherever you are. In the midst of whatever drama or trauma you face, he is there, waiting to comfort your heart and soul. Misery is a spirit upon you that is hard to shake. You can become addicted to the chaos and the misery of those around you (as you have something in common) and you fail together, you struggle together — you have bonded over your misery.

So when you have someone you love in that grip of misery, how do you let go and let God? The bible tells us to constantly raise them in prayer. We are to love them in their place. And the hard part, we are to let life go on. A paraphrase of Isaiah 43:18 tells us that we are to let go and move on with our life. That for all the good for the Glory of God will come out of the bad.

That is the hardest part isn’t it? Understanding that life moves on and the clock doesn’t stop just because our heart is broken. You can’t choose to change people who deliberately take steps off the path.

It’s so easy to wallow in your misery, your struggles, your pain. Somewhere deep inside there is a spark of love and truth that in your darkest times will reveal God’s love for you. So how do we reach lost people?

Our job is to send them love when they are struggling, to remind them of the love that surrounds them. That no matter where they go, God will be there too. We can’t save them, but we can keep pointing them to Him. We can send them to the source.

We don’t ignore their bad behaviors. We instead continue to love them ... where they are. We don’t have to sanction what they do and when they do it, but our job is to show them the love of Christ. That means that we go where they are, with love and compassion yet discipline and justice. We acknowledge their choices but we love the sinner and not the sin.

We choose to tell Satan that today is not his day, we will continue to love those who struggle.

Kalynn Brazeal is a conservative, Christian wife/mom/country girl carrying around an MBA, several decades of business experience and a strong opinion. Dividing her time between Grand Lake and North Dakota, she continues to share her column on life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness and cake. She can be reached by email at kmbrazeal@icloud.com.