In her book, Big Magic, author Elizabeth Gilbert explains what she has noticed about people that claim they never have time to do the things they need to do, but somehow find time to do the things they want to do.

Gilbert writes: “You know how people who are having extramarital affairs always seem to manage to find time to see each other …? It doesn’t seem to matter if those people have full-time jobs and families at home to support; they still somehow always manage to find the time to sneak off and see their lover – no matter what the difficulties, the risks, or the costs. When people are having an affair, they don’t mind losing sleep, or missing meals. They will make whatever sacrifices they have to make, and they will blast through any obstacles, in order to be alone with the object of their devotion and obsession – because it matters to them.”

After reading this it occurred to me that a lot of people need to have an “affair” with God. What if God became the object of your desire and devotion? What if you longed to sneak-off and have time with God? What if time with God really mattered to you?

According to a recent study, nearly 80% of our population is not connected to or active in any church. Why? Because it doesn’t matter to them. Either it stopped mattering at some point, or it never mattered at all. Either way, the effects on our society in general is obvious.

As a society, we are more angry, isolated, depressed, and negative than any generation before. Suicide rates are on the rise. Drug abuse is rampant. Cases of child abuse and neglect are rising. A general attitude of hopelessness has taken hold of people at an alarming rate.

It seems that the majority of people are busy having affairs with social media, television, recreation, and any number of other distractions. They will steal time from every other aspect of life to be with the object of their desire. Why don’t more people see God as the object of their devotion and obsession?

“O God, You are my God; I shall seek You earnestly; My soul thirsts for You, my flesh yearns for You, In a dry and weary land where there is no water.” (Psalm 63:1)

“At night my soul longs for You, Indeed, my spirit within me seeks You diligently; For when the earth experiences Your judgments, the inhabitants of the world learn righteousness. “(Isaiah 26:9)

And what are the benefits of making God the object of your devotion and obsession?

“The Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one.” (2 Thess. 3:3)

“God is faithful, by whom you were called into the fellowship of his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.” (1 Cor. 1:9)

I invite you to have an “affair” with God. Let me know if I can help.

Blessings and Peace to You All,

Fr. David+

Rev. Dr. David Bridges is the pastor at St. Andrew's Episcopal Church in Grove. He can be reached at frdavid@standrewsgrove.org. St. Andrew's worship service is at 10 a.m., every Sunday, and broadcast on KWXC 88.9 FM at noon on Thursdays and at 5 p.m. on Saturdays.