The Proverb writer understood the value of good friends.

“The righteous choose their friends carefully.” (12:26) “A friend loves at all times.” (17:17) “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (18:24) “Wounds from a friend can be trusted.” (27:6)

In other words, a true friend will always tell you the truth even when it hurts. A true friend will not always tell you what you want to hear, but rather what you need to hear.

A true friend is one who will always be your defense attorney, before he will be your judge. A true friend is one who walks in when everyone else walks out.

A true friend is one who will multiply your joys, but divide your sorrows. The late Erma Bombeck stated, “A friend will not go on a diet when you’re fat.”

Ben Franklin cautioned, “Be slow in choosing a friend, and even slower in changing.”

Friends come in all sizes and shapes, but there are two very important qualities that make up the glue of friendship: honesty and loyalty.

The basic issue is this: Can I trust him enough to be totally honest with him? Can I trust this person to be totally honest with me?

Dr. Wayne Shaw (R-Grove) has been a member of the Oklahoma Senate since 2014. Prior to that he served as the senior pastor at First Christian Church, Grove, for many years.