You see what I want you to see. This is the truth of everyone... what you project can be completely different than what is brewing under the surface.

Like when my momma would be losing her mind and straightening us out at home, loudly, then the telephone rings... she would take a deep breathe, then give us a look that clearly said “do not open your mouth, until I hang this phone up or you will meet your marker”... then with a sugary sweet tone, she would complete her phone conversation.

While we live in a society where posting everything on social media is the norm, there are some of us who live off-line.

I don’t air my grievances online or over the coffee pot at work. Yes there are times that I get so frustrated with people that I want to verbally flame spray them... but I swallow that and pray about it.

There are dysfunctions in my family that make life challenging... but I don’t put It on display with a cold drink on the porch. I pray over it and move on.

There are some things that don’t deserve the publicity we give it. All of us can have horrible things bubbling under the surface...losses, failures, rebellion, excesses, worries, doubts, fear, oh the list is long and lengthy.

The lady at the bank, the mailman, the teacher, the cop.... all the people you pass each and every day, has something under the surface. We are united in our troubles, united in the knowledge that none of us are exempt from life.

It’s how we choose to face our troubles that reveal our hearts. My momma faced each and every day with a smile and a generous heart for others.

She has troubles and yet she tucked though away beneath the surface... she didn’t deny them... she just didn’t let them rob her of her joy.

That is the way I have worked to handle my troubles. I understand that life will always have troubles and I can not and will not let those troubles rob me of my joy... steal my happy.

When my daughter was struggling with bullies, I kept telling her to guard her happy... in a world where we are set upon all sides by sin and evil, fight to keep your joy.

The people around us that are the hardest to please, they are the ones that leach the joy right out of you. It’s almost like they don’t have any of their ... they are empty and seeking constantly to fill the void inside. So they look for that joy in others and just trample it.

It must hark back to that whole misery loves company thing... but the truth is, that they hate your joy.

How do you manage to wade through a day with all the forces against you? You choose happy. You know that regardless of what you will face, who you will see and where you will go that day, the victory is already won.

Choosing to be happy in the face of whatever the world can throw at you speaks of your heart.

Choose to show that generous heart with those around you. Forgive those that slight you, whether petty or just in ignorance. Look for need in the least of us, because they are the ones that need us the most.

Share your smile with a stranger... there are so many ways you can share with the world what you have hidden under the pain... if your heart is good... well then your tree will bear good fruit.

So what do you do if your having troubles with your heart? The desires that you seek aren’t the ones that honor your faith... what if you don’t have faith? It’s really quite simple... just know that Jesus has already fought the battle and the calming, soothing peace that comes from a good heart can be yours.

Open the manual... the playbook, the guide that can lead you to happy. God has told you clearly... “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” ... “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you”.

Kalynn Brazeal is a conservative, Christian wife/mom/country girl carrying around an MBA, several decades of business experience and a strong opinion. Dividing her time between Grand Lake and North Dakota, she continues to share her column on life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness and cake. She can be reached by email at